Best Openers for Seducing Women

One of the main reasons men don't approach women they are attracted to is because they are afraid they won't know what to say.

I've always found this strange -- when you're with your guy friends, you don't pre-plan your conversations. You don't worry about what you'll talk about because it comes naturally. The best conversation you can have with women -- the sort that will attract them to you -- should flow just as easily.

That being said, it's always good to have a few lines -- openers, not pick-up lines -- to initiate conversation. Talking to strangers is easier than you think once you get used to it but until then, here's a few openers that will get you started talking to women.

You can use this in almost any situation with groups (including when talking to a group of guys) and it leads naturally into open-ended questions.

"So how do you guys all know each other?"

Simple but effective. It reveals valuable information about the relationships within a group -- who's taken, who isn't. You may think some girl is with her boyfriend when she's really with her little cousin. It's an important to question to ask and is non-threatening. You can take one thing that they say -- for example, "we're roommates" to which you respond by asking open-ended questions about where they live, they're school, or even better, a false assumption like "I bet you're the messy one."

This opener you can pretty much only use on women while they're alone in a quiet environment. You need a certain type of personality to pull off patterns -- the mysterious, artist type works well. Otherwise, you'll crash and burn. I, personally, don't like them, but they're effective if they fit your personality.

"Hey, I just wanted to say thank you."

Don't say "excuse me" here... she'll stop when you talk to her, looking directly at her. At this point she'll probably ask why but even if she doesn't you can continue.

"Have you ever had one of those days where you find yourself feeling sort of distant. You're not really happy, but not really sad either... you just feel like you're drifting. Then suddenly you you bump into somebody with an incredibly warm and beautiful smile that just makes you feel wonderful for the rest of the day?

"I just had to thank you for brightening up my day. Though, you know it would be a shame if this is the last time I'll see that wonderful smile... what's your name?"

And you're off to the races.

One of the best ways to start a conversation with a woman in a loud or crowded environment is to come up with something short and quirky in the form of a question.

For example:

"Settle a bet for me: who's the better kisser, guys or girls?"

This can lead into all sorts of banter. If they say, girls, ask them how they'd know. That immediately brings you into sexual banter. If they say guys, ask them if they've ever tried kissing girls. The important thing is to make sure you follow up with something interesting and funny.

Those are all decent openers and feel free to use them.

But the best opener is much more simple, much more natural, and much more effective.

Ready for it?

You sure?

Okay, here it is:

"Hi, how's it going?"

Seriously.

The opener is NOT that important. What's important is that you KNOW you're an interesting person and you exude confidence when you first approach a woman. They can sense this. They will know, regardless of what line you use. The best way to attract women, then, doesn't have much to do with openers and more to do with how you feel about yourself. Once you master this, you'll be able to say whatever you want and still be attractive. Until then, using canned openers as a crutch is alright -- just don't rely on them too much.