The Most Important Seduction Rule

Have you ever seen a beautiful woman from across a room or a bar and decide you want to meet her? But then you think about what to say to her -- it has to be perfect, you think, or she won't like you. And do you really look your best? Is this the right place to talk to her? What if she has a boyfriend? What if she's with her friends? What if she's mean and what if she rejects you?

This nagging self-doubt is the worst thing that can happen. It will destroy your chances of meeting this girl. Most of the time you won't muster the courage to talk to her and even if you do, you'll be nervous, you'll be self-concious, you'll feel insecure -- and she'll have noticed you contemplating talking to her for however long you've stood around thinking about it. You'll be shot down before you start.

That's why the single most important rule to remember when trying to initiate conversation with women is the 3 second rule. The point of the 3 second rule is to force you to approach a woman without showing hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. Hesitation makes you appear insecure -- a trait you do not want to exhibit to women. Hesitation also gives you time to talk yourself out of talking to her -- if you think too much you'll create dozens of reasons not to take action.

When it comes to attracting women, don't think, act.

Whatever you do, don't break the 3 second rule. Even if you can't think of anything to say to the woman, don't break this rule. Approach her even if you have no idea how you will continue. This will demonstrate confidence which is critical to attracting women.

If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 seconds, she will see that your are spontaneous, decisive, and confident -- that will go a long way towards attracting women.

You don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you with the 3 second rule. Your mindset should be: you see something you want and you go after it.

You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3 second rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous or self-concious. These are all hallmarks of unattractive men who women find strange. Their first impression of you will be of a confident, decisive man. If you have nothing to say or aren't charismatic during the conversation, that won't work in your favour, but at least you have made a good first impression. She will have a positive feeling about you entering the conversation which will minimize the chance of you having a negative interaction.